Be Near, but Don’t Smother
Chasing makes for a bad scene. You should know that you should never chase a woman. When you chase a woman and buy her gifts and flowers, take her to dinner constantly, want her to be by your side at all times, want to date every day, what you are really doing is smothering her.
A woman does not want that. A woman has to have her own space. By letting her know that she is the beginning and the end of your life, you are in fact, just chasing her away.
There is a time to back off. Give her some time for herself. Send her to the hair dresser or to buy a new outfit by herself. She likes to make decisions for herself and doesn’t want you dictating to her what she should or should not wear, or how to have her hair fixed.
Give her ideas of what you like and don’t like but don’t show disappointment when she comes out with something that you really don’t like. It is her wants and needs and she has a right to what she likes and doesn’t like.
Another thing not to do is to be jealous of friends she has and wants to talk to. If she wanted to be with them, she would not be with you. When you are jealous of phone calls that she has or friends she talks to, you are trying to control her life. You will not hold her by trying to stop her. A woman will do what she wants to do.
If she cannot do it with you around, she will do it with you gone. She will tell you to leave. She had a life before you came along and she should not be expected to give up that life just because you are now a part of it.
By showing her that she is the only thing in your life, you are lowering your value and making her believe she is in charge. She will then do what she wants to do, so be smart and don’t smother her.