Getting lucky can sometimes mean that you caught the woman off guard or when she was vulnerable. There are men that prey on women when they realize they are vulnerable. If you would like to keep a reputation as a man who is worth dating, don’t play with a woman’s feelings when they are down.
Women will talk and if one is hurt she will go to her friends for comfort and tell all. If you really care about the woman and want more than a one night stand, then listen to her, spend time with her, give her a chance to remove herself from her problems, but never ever take advantage of her. You will get farther in the end by saying “No” for her and acting as a friend until she is ready.
A woman will learn to trust you more for you protection and that will bring her feelings for you closer. Beware of the “frying pan to fire” syndrome or the “I lost my puppy (family member, boyfriend, etc)” disease. And a disease it is. A woman who is heartbroken will easily be fooled by a kind word and a protective presence. This is not real commitment and if she allows herself to act on that need, she will hate herself and you later.
Be supportive. Be kind and helpful. Give her time and let her know you are always there but not until it is the right time. Timing is critical and winning the woman of your dreams shouldn’t be based on a needy heart that when mended will wall you outside (never on the inside).
A woman does not allow her feelings to rule her life as many think. She may fall prey easily to them, but she will get rid of the problem as soon as she realizes and beat herself to the point that no amount of apology will allow you back into her arms.
Why is that true. It is true because she was vulnerable, but you were not and you did not protect her. Think about it. Then just be there for her and give her a new direction but never ever take advantage of the situation.